Approximately fifty percent of all marriages in America end in divorce.

And while the divorce experience can be painful for spouses, for kids and for extended families, it can be a blessing in disguise for many people who decide to go through with this process.

Here are some of the positive aspects of terminating a marriage:

  1. You may have the opportunity to live in a new place where you have dreamed about residing.
  2. Once it is over, you will probably be done with accountants, mediators, lawyers and the legal system which can be quite challenging, slow and unpleasant at times.
  3. You can have less contact with a person and a relationship that has created a lot of pain for you for an extended period of time.
  4. You have the chance to meet a new lover, a new spouse or to date multiple people, if you so desire.
  5. Your house may be quite a bit more peaceful than it was prior to your divorce.
  6. You and your ex may find that you get along better after the divorce than you did while you were married.
  7. You no longer have to put up with infidelity, lying and deception which are often present when a marriage is in trouble.
  8. You may be in a better situation financially than you were previously.
  9. Your children will not be pawns in the middle of a conflict any longer.
  10. Your children may start to do better in school and be easier to manage and parent effectively.
  11. Your kids may respond positively to a new and more peaceful home environment.
  12. You may have the chance to explore new hobbies, new organizations, new passions and new challenges.
  13. You can feel proud of yourself for having extricated yourself from a negative situation.
  14. Look upon this transition as a new and exciting adventure and a new chapter of your life.
  15. You may be teaching your children some useful skills about courage, change and what to do when a relationship has run its course.
  16. You may be liberating yourself from a physically or emotionally abusive situation.
  17. Many people who get out of toxic or dysfunctional relationships report feeling that their self-confidence and self-esteem both improve when they terminate their relationship.
  18. You will probably discover that you feel pretty good about ninety days after everything is over.
  19. While one needs to be careful about internet dating, many of my clients have met fine companions and new husbands and wives by using this efficient technology for connecting singles and recently divorced people.
  20. Divorce is not easy, but it is sometimes necessary and millions of people have done it successfully. So, you can do it too.

Jay P. Granat, Ph.D. is a psychotherapist, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of

He can be reached at or at 888 580-ZONE.