Over the years, I have counseled a number of athletes who have decided to terminate their marriages.
 
Several years ago, I was consulted in a divorce matter involving two professional basketball players who had married one another and had several children together.
 
In this instance, the wife was willing to settle the matter for what seemed to be reasonable terms, according to her lawyer.
 
The husband, on the other hand, was transforming the divorce process into a contest that he was intent on winning. He brought his mental toughness and his stubbornness to this situation.  This was his way of coping and of managing his career and his life.
 
Consequently, the process was dragging on for quite a while.
 
In order to help them to resolve this situation, I suggested that they both bring their attorneys to an outside lawyer skilled in these kinds of cases.
 
Fortunately, this third lawyer, who acted as a consultant, was able to help all the parties involved to reach a compromise and a fair settlement without the time, expense and emotional turmoil which is often a part of a court trial.
 

Jay P. Granat, Ph.D. LMFT is a Psychotherapist and the Founder of HighNetWorthDivorces.com
He can be reached at 201 647-9191